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Slow Motherhood

I’ve been on a personal journey lately. I had to stop and reevaluate my whole life and rediscover myself as a woman, as a member of society and as a mom.

I found myself running thin, getting stressed out beyond what’s normally human. I wasn’t being the person I wanted to be.

That led me to look inside myself and pull out one by one all the “to-do’s” that had become ingrained in my life and ask myself if they were still important or not.

I realized I wasn’t the mom I wanted to be. That thought was scary enough to make me slow down, look for answers and take a U-turn.

I was a rushing like a mad person, rushing everyone along, making life so desperately complicated for my family and getting worn out every other minute of the day.

Enough!

That’s not what I want. I want slow, un-rushed, calm long and peaceful days!

I’m on a journey towards simple, slow motherhood. I want both my days and years to be long! Long and quiet!

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I have a quote taped on the door of my locker at work that I ripped from an old calendar:

Just think lovely wonderful thoughts and they lift you up in the air.

James Barrie

Lovely wonderful thoughts that keep you positive, that help you rise about the difficulties of the day to day life and not only at work.

It has become my motto…wonderful thoughts that lift you up!

 

I was still in Hungary when I first heard of Chris Guillebeau and something about his writing resonated with me. I have most of his books! This is the last one I read and it’s just WOW!

Read it!

Chris Guillebeau is from the States, he traveled to every single country in the world. He knows what he’s talking about!

Read it!

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I’m sure some of you heard about the #CivilmarchforAleppo  but in case you didn’t, here’s what’s happening:

A group of people started off from Berlin and they are walking to Aleppo as a way to raise awareness for the people in Syria and the refugees who flee the war-torn zones.

People from all over the place are joining the march, some only for a few days. Everyone is welcomed to join.

Here’s what you can read on the site of why they embarked on this journey:

Syria is the biggest humanitarian crisis of our time. We cannot watch it unfolding much longer. We want to transform the feeling of helplessness into action

I’m doing my part by spreading the word. In my heart I’m walking right along them! I believe we can make a difference!

Go and check out their site and their Facebook page, and if you can why not join them too?

#CivilMarchforAleppo is a march for peace!

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Last year, around Lorenz0’s first birthday, a mom I’d met at the park and I set up a playroom area at the local library.

In winter or in bad weather it can be a bummer to have to stay inside the house the whole afternoon, or the whole day if you are an SAHM. It’s nice to invite other mom’s and kids over to your place but that means cleaning up before and after and it’s not always practical, particularly if you don’t know them very well.

We thought it would be nice to have a “neutral” place where the kids could play together and the moms could hang out. I’m sure moms out there in blogland agree on this one, having someone to talk to that you can relate to it’s very comforting.

The mom I met at the park is a teacher, but she didn’t know how to go about it. I told her I knew the Mayor and I could ask if he could give us a room. He sent me to talk to the librarian and she came up with the idea to have the playroom right above the library in a sort of loft.

At the beginning it was just a few moms, a couple times it was only me and Lorenzo, but little by little other moms with kids started joining and now we a have a big group that gets together every Monday afternoon to hang out, play together and have tea and snack.

It’s funny how things just kind of grow by themselves, it takes a small initial effort but once it’s rolling it just keeps going.

It’s the initial effort that makes the difference, I wonder how many moms in this town before us sat at the park and thought

“Wouldn’t it be nice to have a place we could go to where the kids could play together and the moms could chill and talk…”

It was the right time and the right place of course, still I think that if we want some things to happen we have to make them happen.

“Ask not what your country can do for you, ask what you can do for your country.” J.F.K

How are you making a difference in your community?

Tend To Your Garden

Do you ever wish you could just take off and leave everything behind? Does it happen often that you feel the place you are at is too small, too narrow or too boring?

Wouldn’t it be fun to just hop on the next plane out of here?

Anywhere but here! 

Because sometimes it feels, I’m sure it happens to all of us, that we cannot, we will not be content with less than the best. Happiness is just around the corner and we will get on the first bus, train, bicycle or even a donkey and just ride towards that bright future that’s waiting for us.

We will chase that dream and find happiness…

Except that happiness is not something you can chase and if you cannot be content in one place chances are you will not be content anywhere.

Sometimes you are exactly where you are supposed to be but the grass is always greener on the other side. So, over to the other side we go and then discover that the patch next to it is greener still and our garden is no fun anymore.

“We must cultivate our own garden.” Voltaire

That’s one piece of radical advice!

What if we would really make the best of where we are because that is the place we are meant to be?

What if hopping on the next plane is not the answer?

What if we would learn contentment?

What if it’s not the circumstances but us that make the difference?

Just think about it!

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Take time to slow down

I think it’s a challenge for all of us to slow down, I know for me it is.

I want to be able to enjoy the little things, to take the time to play with Lorenzo, to take him to the park, to go for a walk without having to rush home. To enjoy my coffee, to stare out the window.

At work it’s almost impossible to slow down. I work in the kitchen once a week and the last two times I noticed that right outside the kitchen door there was a little robin pecking at the crumbs from the floor.

It was such a refreshing sight, so peaceful, I stared at the window and watched him go back and forth and finally fly off towards the trees.

It was nothing special really, it just made me smile. I don’t always stop to enjoy the little things like I should.

It’s something I need to work on. I’m glad though, that I stopped to look at the robin, it sort of helped me put things in perspective. Life is all about the little moments.

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