3 years together! We made it this far!
I hear people telling me how they’ve been married for half a century and I feel silly telling them that Loris and I have just celebrated 3 years as a couple. I feel silly because I know they are thinking how we are just starting out and marriage like wine has to pass the test of time.
I heard about the 7 year crisis, thankfully I still have 4 years to go, because I don’t think I have the strength to handle a crisis right now. Then my friends with children say “oh wait till you have kids, relationships always change when you have kids”. Again I’m thankful we don’t have children yet, and hope they come when we are ready. As if you could actually plan life!
People still shake their heads with disbelief at us and our 12 year-gap and they think we are crazy. Sometimes I myself think we are crazy!
But we take life as it comes, with all its problems and bills and taxes, rents to pay, clogged sinks, door bells that are waiting to be fixed, empty fridge and cupboards (when we don’t have time to go to the store), laundry that piles in the bathroom basket, windows that never ever get washed, and stairs that never ever get mopped.
The only things that work at our place are the garden and the internet connection, oh and the oven, that works fine too, probably because we use it so rarely.
I’m telling you Taylor Swift is right, life makes love look hard. And when we are both tired (physically, not mentally) we ask ourselves “chi ce lo fa fare?” (the English translation would be “why in the world are we doing this?”)
And the answer is, I’m doing THIS (see list above) because ours is a love worth fighting for. I wouldn’t change it for the world. Okay, maybe I would like to have a cleaner kitchen and less bills to pay but that’s something I can work on.
I think in general the reason why I’m willing to fight for this love is because I feel loved! Loris makes me feel like there’s nobody in the world that can make pasta col tonno (tuna pasta) better than me, that I’m the best at ironing his shirts, and that I am without doubt the prettiest girl in town. Who wouldn’t fight for a love like that? Our life is not easy nor simple, but it’s all ours!
Love and Other Wonders 